Late-night, tangent-filled and full of links. Violets send you an article at 1 a.m. with "this made me think of you". They may forget to answer the logistics. If you text a Violet, ask one question at a time; if you are a Violet, answer the practical question first, then go down the rabbit hole.
Texting tips for Violets
- A quick "got it, will reply properly later" keeps people from guessing.
- Add one personal line before the question, and a thank-you after the answer.
- Answer the practical question first, then share the tangent.
Scripts that work by text
- Asking for something: "I want to give this proper thought. Can I get back to you by Thursday?"
- Saying no: "I can't take this on without dropping something important. Which would you rather I pause?"
- After a tense moment: "I know I changed the plan on you. Let's agree which parts are fixed and which can move."
Texting and relationships
Texting is now a normal part of relationships: Pew Research Center found many couples use texts and messages to feel closer, and some use them to resolve arguments they couldn't have face to face. Differences in texting style are common sources of misunderstanding, so it's worth naming them out loud.
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Sources
- Pew Research Center (2014), "Couples, the Internet, and Social Media" pewresearch.org